1.What one event, big or small, are you going to tell your grandchildren about?
Getting my ACL reconstructed and hobbling around on crutches.
2.If you had to describe your 2017 in 3 words, what would they be?
Busy, productive, revealing.
3.What new things did you discover about yourself?
I’m capable of swerving around awkward situations a lot better than I used to be. Turns out, if you actually have to converse with people, you learn some things.
4.What single achievement are you most proud of?
I found a house and put an offer on it and purchased it.
5.What was the best news you received?
My answer last year: I got a raise. My answer this year: I got a raise.
6.What was your favorite place that you visited in 2017?
I think it was seeing my friend Nancy in NJ. We hadn’t seen each other in awhile, and it was a joy to be together again.
7.Which of your personal qualities turned out to be the most helpful this year?
Patience. I injured my knee, and after waiting months for it to heal, I finally had the MRI and found out I would need surgery.
8.Who was your number one go-to person that you could always rely on?
My mama.
9.Which new skills did you learn?
I’ve been cooking a few different things.
10.What, or who, are you most thankful for?
I’m immensely grateful to my Mom for encouraging me to buy my house.
11.If someone wrote a book about your life in 2017, what kind of genre would it be? A comedy, love story, drama, film noir or something else?
Unfortunately, I think it would be a stupid ABC Family drama. I had a lot of shit going on with my sister-roommate. We still aren’t on good terms.
12.What was the most important lesson you learned in 2017?
For most of 2017, I was very happy. I didn’t feel quite so lost. Life happened to me, but it was good. There were tears and stresses and weight gain and weight loss and fights, but I think I’m learning how to be happy and fulfilled.
13.Which mental block(s) did you overcome?
Physical Therapy was mostly a mental exercise. There were so many times when the therapist told me to do something, and I had to think so much just to do it. I think the knee surgery, overall, was the most mentally taxing experience of the year. I was off work and trying to relearn how to walk and not eat my feelings and not do things that would mess up the healing process.
14.What 5 people did you most enjoy spending time with?
Nora, Nancy, Rachel, Rachael… my bar regulars.
15.What was your biggest break-through moment career-wise?
I had a really great review that resulted in an acknowledgment of all I do at the company, and I felt really encouraged.
16.How did your relationship to your family evolve?
I spent a lot of nights with my niece. Between working and watching her, I didn’t go out that much. My sister and I put a lot of strain on our relationship while living together. I had hoped to move out in 2017, but didn’t until 2018. I still have a long road ahead as far as mending that relationship. My brother got married so now he’s off living his life. My parents and I still get along really well.
17.What book or movie affected your life in a profound way?
I read a book called Keeping Faith that was very good. I wouldn’t say that it affected my life in a profound way. I really should blog more so that I can remember these things.
18.What was your favorite compliment that you received this year?
I get a lot of compliments while tending bar. One of the older guys in the least creepy way possible (I swear) told me I look “sophisticated and sexy” in my glasses. That still makes me laugh… my mom said the same thing about my glasses. Another of the older guys said I’m very pleasant, level-headed, and intelligent. I wish I could remember any other compliments that were a little more meaningful, but I have really enjoyed working at the club.
19.What little things did you most enjoy during your day-to-day life?
Witnessing Nora learn all her words. Good meals. Good coffee.
20.What cool things did you create this year?
I painted a bunch of pieces to do a show at the local gallery. I hope to have a little studio space in my house soon.
21.What was your most common mental state this year (e.g. excited, curious, stressed)?
I was pretty chill most of 2017. I sort of just rolled with everything. I planned a couple of trips. I applied for a coaching job and then I found out about needing surgery. Then my car needed more work.
22.Was there anything you did for the very first time in your life this year?
Had major surgery.
23.What was your favorite moment spent with your friends?
Seeing Anastasia on Broadway with Nancy.
24.What major goal did you lay the foundations for?
The knee surgery really upped my motivation for getting to a healthier shape.
25.Which worries turned out to be completely unnecessary?
When I first thought about buying my own place, I was absolutely concerned about the money. It turned out to be completely unnecessary because between my two jobs, I’m doing fairly well. My house was very cheap and I plan to renovate and remodel to increase the value.
I know I’d love to NOT have an allergic reaction to a wasp ever again.
27.What was the best gift you received?
I got a projector for move nights. 🙂
28.How did your overall outlook on life evolve?
I think this sums it up.
29.What was the biggest problem you solved?
My living situation.
30.What was the funniest moment of your year, one that still makes it hard not to burst out laughing when you think about it?
I drove a couple guys home after my shift, but I was starving so I stopped at Burger King. Some stupid shit ensued. It still makes me laugh.
31.What purchase turned out to be the best decision ever?
Honestly, I bought mesh laundry bags, and I can’t believe I used to do laundry without them. #adulthood
32.What one thing would you do differently and why?
I don’t think I can answer this until I’ve really addressed the issue with my sister.
33.What do you deserve a pat on the back for?
Keeping my finances in order through almost two months without work.
34.What activities made you lose track of time?
Working.
35.What did you think about more than anything else?
It’s a toss up between my knee surgery and buying a house.
36.What topics did you most enjoy learning about?
Gambling. Haha. I do love bar conversations.
37.What new habits did you cultivate?
Walking almost every day.
38.What advice would you give your early 2017 self if you could?
Go to the doctor and get your knee looked at!
39.Did any parts of your self or your life do a complete 180 this year?
I was definitely less concerned about money in 2017. I just had better control of it (plus a little more of it). Also, my main financial goal changed from paying off my student loans to buying a house.
40.What or who had the biggest positive impact on your life this year?
I think this was my mom. She was supportive through all the sister drama and she helped me find a house and encouraged me to do it. She’s the best.
What do you want the overarching theme for your 2018 to be?
So last year, my theme was adventure, and that actually ended up pretty accurate. I think I would like my theme for this year to be relationships. Personal relationships, work relationships, familial relationships. One thing I’ve learned already this year is that living on my own gives me a little more push to be with friends. I’m so introverted so it’s rare for me to recognize that need, but I think it’s good that I want to spend more time with people.
What do you want to see, discover, explore?
Maine. Still Maine.
Who do you want to spend more time with in 2018?
I’m not sure. Maybe everyone.
What skills do you want to learn, improve or master?
The guitar has already been super helpful for me this year. I have been practicing almost every night to help me get through some stuff. It’s a great distraction, and people already love my voice so I would love to be able to play well.
Which personal quality do you want to develop or strengthen?
Understanding.
What do you want your everyday life to be like?
I have been working so hard on my morning routine the past couple of months. I truly feel like I’m making better habits. I hope to continue working on this part of my everyday life.
STILL ACCURATE: I have some nervous habits I’m really trying to get rid of altogether. So hard to do.
I want to do things that have been talked about but never accomplished.
I’d love to say I went on a great vacation or that I paid off my student loans or that I lost 40 lbs. I’d love to look back on 2018 and say I met my husband. I just hope I have good times to remember.